How To Neighbor – Lonely Loved

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As the world grows more connected, our neighbors are closer than ever. But how close are we to our neighbors? You might not share a fence, but you can still share their burdens and joys. Now’s the time to show the world How to Neighbor.

WHY ARE MORE OF US DEALING WITH EMOTIONAL POVERTY?

1. BREAK DOWN OF FAMILIES

2. INCREASED MOBILITY

3. HEAVY WORKLOADS

4. RISE OF SOCIAL MEDIA

“A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don’t function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.”
Brené BrownWant to Be Happy? Stop Trying to Be Perfect.

HOW DO WE LOVE THE LONELY?

1. LOVE WITH TOUCH.

A man with leprosy came and knelt before [Jesus] and said, “Lord, if you are willing, you can make me clean.”
Matthew 8:2 NIV

Jesus reached out his hand and touched the man. “I am willing,” he said. “Be clean!” Immediately he was cleansed of his leprosy.
Matthew 8:3 NIV

“The biggest disease today is not leprosy or tuberculosis, but rather the feeling of being unwanted, uncared for, and deserted by everybody.”
Mother Teresa

“The biggest problem with the human condition today is not only our residential status (home/homeless), sexual orientation or nation of origin (refugee), but rather the feeling of being unwanted, uncared for, and deserted by everybody.”
Jerris Duncan

2. LOVE BY LISTENING.

“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgement; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
Brené BrownThe Gifts of Imperfection

17 [Jesus] asked them, “What are you discussing together as you walk along?” They stood still, their faces downcast. 18 One of them, named Cleopas, asked him, “Are you the only one visiting Jerusalem who does not know the things that have happened there in these days?” 19 “What things?” he asked.
Luke 24:17-19 NIV

3. LOVE WITH TIME.

“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.
Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.”
Brené BrownThe Gifts of Imperfection

“The truth is: Belonging starts with self-acceptance. Your level of belonging, in fact, can never be greater than your level of self-acceptance, because believing that you’re enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic, vulnerable and imperfect.”
Brené BrownLife Lessons We All Need to Learn

Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness.
Isaiah 41:10 WEB

Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”
Matthew 22:37-40 NIV

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